If the people who make up the environment are not doing well, the overall wellness of the organization suffers. An emphasis on the wellness within the organization does not chip away at personal accountability. Instead, it offers encouragement for individuals to make their mental health and wellness a priority at work. I invite organizations to create a Culture of Care to assist with minimizing and alleviating symptoms of vicarious trauma, compassion fatigue and burnout. A Culture of Care is an environment where mental and emotional health are recognized in such a way to lessen the stigma.
Closure is something that you actually give to yourself. It can create distress to feel as though your healing is in the hands of another person. The cleansing closure conversation where the end of the relationship is wrapped up rarely happens. If the conversation does occur, it may not come in the timeframe that one would hope to have it or consist of the words that were expected. Even when there is a conversation, it is up to you as to whether or not you accept it. This is why closure belongs to you.
The truth is, our realities are partially based upon our experiences and perceptions. Since experiences and perceptions differ, our realities can as well. This is true even when we are in a shared space and creating the reality together. In the relationship, it is important to hold space for the shared vision as well as the individual realities. The combination of those realities contribute to the shared vision.
Mindfulness exercises can assist with the wandering mind. When the mind wanders too far in the future, it may feel anxious and if too far in the past, it may feel depressed. One is not real and the other is fixed and cannot be manipulated. If you find you are not present, take a moment to try an exercise to reground yourself to the present.