Start from within and radiate out. Know that there is no one way to love and it is not an all or nothing state. Meaning, we are constantly growing and healing so you do not have to wait to be in love.
The truth is, our realities are partially based upon our experiences and perceptions. Since experiences and perceptions differ, our realities can as well. This is true even when we are in a shared space and creating the reality together. In the relationship, it is important to hold space for the shared vision as well as the individual realities. The combination of those realities contribute to the shared vision.