Total wellness involves being the best version of yourself in any given moment. Being the best you in any given moment is not about perfection, it is about showing up in your life and your relationships in a manner that feels healthy for you. Finding the right therapist is one way to support this endeavor.
The love that you have for yourself is important to your overall well being and the health of your interpersonal relationships. Think of yourself as the center of your emotional world (your "Loveverse".) You are in control of the love that you radiate outward and what you wish to receive. Take the time to check-in with yourself each day. What space are you occupying?